To be able to surrender fully to a lover requires trust.

I once met a wonderful man that I was entirely attracted to. I did not have a sense of where we stood emotionally at all and my body stopped being able to feel pleasure. It just switched off and froze because I didn’t have the words or courage to find out where we stood, to ask for clarity or to adjust the boundaries of the situation. I wasted a potentially far more beautiful encounter.

We have to feel safe emotionally before our body can fully relax and we can surrender to pleasure, or else we are always holding back.

What would it take to trust your lover more, what might you need and request to be able to surrender more fully?