Motherhood is so much about the woman’s body. Even after birth a woman’s body is home for their baby, a vessel for nourishment, calm and comfort. So many mothers struggle with how to get nourished themselves while giving so much. The majority of women report having no interest in sex for a while after having children, that having a nap or taking a bath sounds more appealing. Self care becomes more essential to a woman’s body than ecstatic pleasure when they are being touched all day and night by their child.

This is where we advocate strongly for partners to shift focus from expecting women to make love and to tend to their woman’s body instead. Mothers need to be taken care of as they take care of their children. Sexiness will return, but now she probably needs to sleep. This is a stage where her body probably most wants soothing, relaxing, nourishing touch and offering her regular 5-10 minute massages is a way of keeping the physical connection between partners alive so that when she may be ready for romance again your touch will not have become distant and it will be an easier transition to return to pleasure together.